Stuck in a rut? Read this...
As a coach, most of my clients come to me feeling as though they’re in a rut. They’re just not finding flow in their work life, relationship, business, or life in general. They’re lacking clarity, drive and confidence and are feeling like they’d like things to be different but they’re not really sure what that means or what their dream life actually looks like. They feel like they’re ticking boxes just for the sake of it or running themselves ragged on a whizzing hamster wheel.
They’re either starting things and then losing motivation or paralysed, with no idea of what to do next to make themselves feel more confident, more motivated, and more inspired about their life.
If this sounds like you, don’t worry! We all find ourselves in this place from time to time and there is lots you can do to get out of a rut and get your groove back:
Be gentle with yourself
Before we can move forward, we need to stop beating ourselves up or being frustrated with our situation. Life doesn't always go to plan, and that's OK! Often the emotional pain we feel when we feel stuck is less from what's happening in reality and more from our struggle against tricky emotions or accepting responsibility. Give yourself a mental hug and tell yourself that it's OK not to be OK and start looking at your next move towards feeling better - no wallowing here, just acceptance and positive action ;)
Declutter + switch up your environment
If you don't know where to start to get out of your rut, try decluttering. I love Marie Kondo's method from The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up of asking myself 'does it spark joy' and if it doesn't, I find the item a new home or donate it to charity (I only throw things away when I really have to - less waste!). Give your desk a good tidy, clean out your wardrobe, make your bed with fresh sheets or open your windows and let some fresh air in. Taking a walk or solo picnic in nature or heading to your fave cafe to work or journal can make a big difference to your mental state as well. Whether you declutter or switch up your environment, you're one step closer to getting out of that rut!
Make a love list
Write a big list of all the things that you love to do - from small things like having fresh flowers in the house and drinking your favourite herbal tea in the morning to bigger things like travel. Make more time for these things in your life by adding them into your calendar.
Start where you are – for example, if you’d love to travel the world but you’re not in a position to do that yet try being a tourist in your own city or planning a weekend roadtrip.
Get an accountability buddy
Rather than keeping your big dreams under wraps and only revealing them to friends when they’re achieved and perfect, tell people who will keep you accountable in a loving way. Months before Exhale opened, I told all my friends about the idea! They would ask my for updates and offer help and advice and it made the process much easier and kept me motivated as well.
Work with a coach
Find a coach that you connect with and reach out about working with them. As a coach, getting my clients out of their ruts and on their way to their dream life is my speciality! I’ve worked with coaches myself and it’s so helpful to have someone on your side, supporting you, and there to talk things over along the way.
Try new things
Start to take notice of the little nudges you’re getting about things you’d like to try or look into. These are often things you think would be great but before you’ve taken action, your inner critic has jumped in and sabotaged you with thoughts like ‘I don’t have time’. ‘I can’t afford it’, ‘People will think I’m crazy’ or any other limiting beliefs that it likes to throw your way!
Had the idea of taking an art class on the back of your mind for a while? Book it now! Toying with the idea of yoga – find a studio nearby and sign up for a beginners course. Thinking about taking a new career direction? Research your study options, reach out to contacts, or get in touch with someone who’s doing what you want to do and ask for their help. Wanting to take a trip? Map out a savings plan and put it in your calendar!
Get clear on your direction and purpose
It can be tricky to get out of a rut without any idea of where we're headed next! Getting clear on your values, purpose and direction will help you become more motivated to make small changes that align you with the person you want to be and the life you want to live. You're probably thinking 'That sounds good, but HOW do I figure out my direction?!' - don't worry, I've got you covered. Enter your details below to get a copy of my Find Your Purpose journal prompts delivered straight to your inbox. These questions will shed light on your deepest desires and values, all you need is a pen and paper.
Move forward one step at a time
Break your big dreams down into small steps that you can easily check off. Put these in your calendar and work through them – no more overwhelm!
When you’re just starting to take steps towards a goal or creating your dream life, momentum is key. Often we’re so focused on all the things we need to do that we forget to celebrate what we’ve already done so we constantly feel like we need to do more or be more. Create a practice that helps you reflect on your success to keep your momentum – try this Success Mindset journaling exercise each night:
- List 3 things from the day that you’re proud of
- List 3 things you did that were acts of kindness (to yourself and others)
- List 3 things from the day that you’re grateful for
- List 3 things that you did that day that moved you closer to your dreams
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