Video: How to let go of expectations and create conscious relationships
For most of us, our relationships are some of the most important parts of our lives. They provide us with support, laughter, joy, and so much more. Our relationships are often our biggest teachers so it's so important for us to show up in them with awareness, compassion, and and open mind and heart.
In today's video, I'm talking about one very sneaky trick our inner critic has that can really mess with our relationships - that's expectations. To have these beautiful, fulfilling conscious relationships, we need to get super aware of our expectations so we can take them out of the equation.
In this video, I'm sharing how you can let go of those sabotaging expectations and empower yourself to feel amazing. I'll also be chatting about how to create great boundaries in our relationships so that, once we've let go of our expectations, we can still ask for what we want...
(Excuse the sausage dog barking at me - clearly I was filming too close to dinner time!)
Here's the breakdown of what I spoke about:
1. It is your job to support yourself to feel how you want to feel. Everything you want to feel, you can create from within (my Inner Peace Guided Meditation is a great example of how to do this, you can download it for free here).
2. Start to become aware of your expectations of how people 'should' behave or making up meanings behind what people say. Write these down in your phone our journal as they pop up - this awareness will help you detach from them.
3. Trust yourself to know your boundaries - if you don't jump at the chance to see someone or go to something, don't go. If someone has been dismissive, rude, or hurtful towards you, it's OK for you to tell them that it wasn't cool with you. Do this after you've looked at whether your expectations caused this emotion. If you set yourself up to feel crappy with expectations, empower yourself to feel good again by letting them go. If you had no expectation but felt their behaviour was over-stepping a line, communicate this with love, making it about you and your experience, not about blaming them.
Share your thoughts with me in the comments!